Change Occurs When You’re Willing to Disrupt What Isn’t Working Anymore
Trauma-informed therapy for people feeling stuck, overwhelmed, disconnected from themselves, and need help coming back to themselves. Offering relational therapy in-person in Spokane, WA and via telehealth in WA State
Specializing in supporting adults healing from religious trauma or church hurt; help navigating faith deconstruction; adults living with PTSD or chronic stress; and those working through the way childhood experiences shape adult relationships and attachment patterns.
If you’re here, you’re ready to disrupt something that isn’t working for you anymore. You’re looking at your life wondering, “Why can’t I just get over this?”
If you could just will yourself to be better, less anxious, afraid, or traumatized you would have done it by now. But that’s just not how life works.
What I know to be true is that people are harmed in relationship, and they heal in relationship too.
And it’s only as we invite someone in to help us get closer to our pain, become more attuned to what happened to us and why, and go back to the places we’d rather forget — that something shakes loose.
Many of the people I work with are professionals living their lives doing the best they can, but know that they need help to move past the things that are keeping them stuck.
Some have experienced controlling and authoritarian church environments where leaders misused their position of power and it hurt them. The lasting effects of church hurt or religious trauma makes them feel like they can’t make decisions without permission, they feel guilt even when they haven’t done any thing wrong, or they feel lonely when they step away from their community.
Others feel anxious, burnt-out, and overwhelmed. They feel like in order to enjoy relationships they have to be productive or overly accommodating to have the privilege of having friendships. They’re in their heads… a lot. This prevents them from feeling present to what they want to be experiencing in life. Sometimes when they try to change this, that mean inner critic shows up telling them that they’re not enough, they’re not worth it, and they’re not doing enough. The chronic stress is making life miserable.
Many others have childhood experiences that leaves them feeling confused, hurt, anxious, or avoidant in their adult relationships today. They want to make sense of why they show up in their significant relationships the way they do, but don’t know why it feels so hard. Conflict is avoided by either people-pleasing to keep the peace, or they bail on the relationship before they can even risk being hurt.
My work centers around making sense of your story with you, disrupting the narratives that aren’t working for you anymore, and to help you come back to yourself.
I create an opportunity and space for a do-over. We practice together —naming needs, being vulnerable, showing up honestly in whatever state we’re in, talking through difficult parts of your story, and ultimately learning that not all relationships will hurt us.
This isn’t about blaming your past. It’s about understanding it, being honest about it, and being able to name what you’ve maybe never named before — your truth.
In our work, we may talk about:
The fear of stepping outside of your leader’s authority and the impact of spiritual bypassing
The loneliness of stepping away from a community that once felt like home (whether family or religious community)
The ache of having relational ruptures and wondering “What’s wrong with me that people don’t stay with me?”
The parts of you that long to be seen, but learned to hide in order to survive
The way people-pleasing served you but now seems to sabotage you
How to reconstruct your sense of identity after years of abandoning yourself
If you’re ready to disrupt what isn’t working, I’m here to help.
