Healing happens in the space where you no longer have to hold your story alone.
Trauma-informed therapy for people feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or disconnected from themselves. Offering relational therapy in-person in Spokane, WA and via telehealth in WA State
Specializing in supporting adults healing from religious trauma or church hurt, disorientation of faith deconstruction; adults living with PTSD or chronic stress; and those working through the way childhood experiences shape adult relationships and attachment patterns.
If you’re here, there’s probably a part of you that’s tired — tired of holding everything alone, tired of trying to make sense of the stories you were given, and tired of feeling like you should be “over it” by now.
I want you to know that nothing about your pain is unreasonable. Nothing about your confusion is wrong. And you absolutely do not have to carry it by yourself.
Many of the people I work with come from religious or family environments that were highly controlling and authoritarian. It may have been a “jump when I say jump” kind of environment where obedience was expected in order to stay in favor with God or an authoritarian parent. You were required to figure it out on your own, questioning those in charge wasn’t safe, emotions were labeled as weakness, and getting your emotional needs filled was met with spiritually dismissive language. For some, you may have experienced controlling and abusive leaders that wanted to shape you into an image they approved of rather than allowing you to be yourself. Maybe some of that feels familiar to you.
Perhaps you’re a busy professional who is feeling anxious, burnt-out, or overwhelmed. That in order to enjoy relationships you have to be productive or accommodating in order to have friends. You're likely in your head all the time and it prevents you from feeling present to what you want to be experiencing in life. Part of what keeps you stuck is that mean inner-critic - the one who says you're not enough, you're not worth it, or you're not doing enough. You’re chronically stressed and you need something to change.
Or maybe you have childhood experiences that leaves you feeling confused, hurt, anxious, or avoidant in your adult relationships today. You want to make sense of why you show up in your significant relationships the way you do, but don’t know why it feels so hard. Conflict is something you avoid by either people-pleasing to keep the peace, or you bail on the relationship before you can even risk being hurt.
My work centers around making sense of your story with you. I believe that we are hurt by people and that we heal with people. I create an opportunity and space for a do-over. We practice together —naming needs, being vulnerable, showing up honestly in whatever state we’re in, talking through difficult parts of your story, and ultimately learning that not all relationships will hurt us.
This isn’t about blaming your past. It’s about understanding it, being honest about it, and being able to name what you’ve maybe never named before — your truth.
In our work, we may talk about:
The guilt that shows up even when you know you haven’t done anything wrong
The fear that something bad will happen to you if you “do it wrong”
The loneliness of stepping away from a community that once felt like home (whether family or religious community)
The ache of having relational ruptures and wondering “What’s wrong with me that people don’t stay with me?”
The parts of you that long to be seen, but learned to hide in order to survive
The way people-pleasing served you but now seems to sabotage you
How to reconstruct your sense of identity after years of abandoning yourself
